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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Funda -- you may be new to Open Space, but you are
obviously not new to the planet. There is a lot of "old Soul" wisdom in your
comment about "<FONT face=Arial size=2>Lisa's and Harrison's reactions
reminded me the difference between male& female dealing with conflict."
The real point (for me) is that each of us has to be authentically present in
whatever space we open. Male and female energies are different, and although
each of us (male or female) has both, ladies seem to do better with the former
and Gentlemen with the latter. Which does not make either right or wrong, but
rather appropriate to the person. Every person will open space in their own way
-- and in extreme circumstances, they will re-open or expand it in
their own way. I do think there are some considerations of technique.
Actually, we have learned over the years how to do things better. Having said
all that I think it is still true that the real issue is being authentically
ourselves. Sometimes, that is pretty tough, but the alternative is much worse --
for us and for those we work with.</FONT></FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Harrison</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial">----- Original Message ----- </DIV>
<DIV
style="BACKGROUND: #e4e4e4; FONT: 10pt arial; font-color: black"><B>From:</B>
<A title=fundaokan@superonline.com
href="mailto:fundaokan@superonline.com">Funda Oral</A> </DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>To:</B> <A
title=OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Sent:</B> Sunday, August 22, 2004 4:16
PM</DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Subject:</B> Re: Unintend Consequences,
Collateral Damage and Truth Telling</DIV>
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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Maybe the question is " can we open more space in
our hearts for conflict and respect those who are in
conflict?"</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Lisa's and Harrison's reactions reminded me
the difference between male& female dealing with
conflict.</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>I am new to OS and am not as
experienced as many of you but I am still writing my opinions wishing
that I </FONT><FONT face=Arial size=2>can also share my </FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>OS experiences in a near
future. </FONT></DIV>
<DIV> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>greetings from İstanbul, a very
beautifull,chaotic city, full of conflict.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Funda</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV
style="BACKGROUND: #e4e4e4; FONT: 10pt arial; font-color: black"><B>From:</B>
<A title=hhowen@comcast.net href="mailto:hhowen@comcast.net">Harrison
Owen</A> </DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>To:</B> <A
title=OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU
href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU">OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</A>
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Sent:</B> Sunday, August 22, 2004 3:58
PM</DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Subject:</B> Re: Unintend Consequences,
Collateral Damage and Truth Telling</DIV>
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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Doug -- I am not so sure that this is really a
fork in the road -- somehow that image is just too linear, suggesting that
there is a single road. It feels to me rather more like a deepening of the
experience, or maybe broadening and deepening. An image I would feel more
comfortable with is "an expansion of the circle." So it is nothing new --
but rather more and deeper. That may be splitting hairs, but it enables me
to deal with your coments about "the secret tool bag." I don't think there
are any secrets, it is just that we have never noticed before. I think we
have all noticed that in Open Space, conflict of all sorts is dealt with in
usefuol and productive fashions. Indeed, I have never encountered a
situation where it was necessary to intervene and resolve (mediate) the
conflict. The group has always been able to handle the situation, and
usually learns from it PROVIDED they have plenty of space/time to work in.
So our function (my function) -- is to open space, and keep it open. And
when it appears that the space is too small (clostrophobia is imanent) --
the answer is quite simple -- open more space. And on rare occasions
that means opening a LOT more space. I think this is what I did. In the
case of the Israelis and Palestinians, my action was purely intuitive. I
suppose I could have given some explanation at the time, but truthfully, I
would have been grasping at straws. I honestly didn't KNOW what to do, as in
knowing a particular technique or approach. And I definitely found myself in
the space Toke speaks of (<FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3>"- meaning
that I connect to this detached place in me where I do not need to look
good, be popular, be responsible for the agreed outcome or pleasing
peoples and my own fears - and I let go to it somehow.....").
</FONT></FONT><FONT face=Arial size=2><FONT face="Times New Roman"
size=3><FONT face=Arial size=2>From a personal point of view, this was
definitely a growth moment -- and while I certainly benefited from it, it is
not something that I would look forward to every day. In the second
situation I described (with the non-profit), I did have some idea of what to
do, but I must confess that my anxiety level was right up there. In fact the
night before I found sleep a sometime thing, but as Toke points out the
object of real concern was not (in the first instance) them, but me. It took
me most of the night to find that detached place -- that centered space from
which I could open a whole mess of space for others.
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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Last thought. I don't think I was describing a
new way to conclude and Open Space. If anything it was more about kick
starting the whole operation with a radical re-opening of Space. It was also
about giving everybody the clear opportunity to make their own choices in a
way that placed the responsibility for that choice totally on them. Did they
choose to go on -- or drop out? No blame either way, but the choice was
theirs. It is true that I left the circle, but I promised to come back in
one hour (seemed like a reasonable time). All those who chose to do so could
come back. And anybody who found something else to do would be missed, but
not judged. I have to say that hour (in both situations) felt like almost an
eternity. However, I never felt like I was leaving the space, only the
circle, which I think is important. If anything I sensed a deeper connection
with the participants.</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Harrison</FONT><FONT size=+0></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial><BR><FONT size=2></FONT></FONT></DIV></FONT>
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<DIV
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<A title=76066.515@compuserve.com
href="mailto:76066.515@compuserve.com">Douglas D. Germann, Sr.</A> </DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>To:</B> <A
title=OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Sent:</B> Saturday, August 21, 2004 11:53
PM</DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Subject:</B> Unintend Consequences,
Collateral Damage and Truth Telling</DIV>
<DIV><BR></DIV>Harrison--<BR><BR>It seems to me you have invented a
different way to conclude OST. I think<BR>there are 3 ways that are talked
about here on the list:<BR><BR>1. Convergence (the first way).<BR><BR>2.
Reopening the space for action planning (Chris Corrigan's way).<BR><BR>3.
Opening breathing room (for times of shock).<BR><BR>So we have a fork in
the OST road, and (no) surprise--we have choices!<BR><BR>It seems to me
that opening space is something everybody should be able to<BR>do--and
indeed we all do it all the time. In other words, there are no<BR>experts
keeping the secrets to themselves. Yet this last one seems to be in<BR>the
secret tool bag of the practitioner. Is it not known to all of us
that<BR>when there is a fire in the circle, we must stop what we are doing
and<BR>evacuate the room? (Or something on that order?)<BR><BR>So, how do
we, when do we, tell our people about it, share it with the<BR>world? This
one needs to be explored further, and the learning shared,
yes?<BR><BR>
:-Doug.<BR>
Seeking people making
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