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<p class=MsoNormal><span class=EmailFormatvorlage17><font size=2 color=navy
face=Arial FAMILY=SANSSERIF><span lang=EN-GB style='font-size:10.0pt;
mso-bidi-font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;mso-ansi-language:EN-GB'>Esther,
Marei – one reason why open space can be difficult for some, in my own
experience, is that its participants are assumed to be healthy, mature human
beings (I assume). Who e.g. have a clear sense of borders, know what is good
for them and what is not, and are able to say “stop” or make use of the law of
the two feet when they need to do so. Those of us who have had their borders (is
this the right term in English? In German, it stands for “Grenzen”) disrespected
as children or later in life, perhaps even without knowing about it, might find
open space terribly unsafe, perhaps even in some way threatening to them – even
if it also bears great and wonderful chances for healing, when one is ready for
it.<o:p></o:p></span></font></span></p>
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face=Arial><span lang=EN-GB style='font-size:10.0pt;mso-bidi-font-size:12.0pt;
font-family:Arial;mso-ansi-language:EN-GB'>The European Open Space conferences
have accompanied me from 1989 to 1997, “coincidentally” during a period of
precisely such a process of dealing with early injuries and unclear borders. It
was a fascinating and very healsome journey, and I also appreciated my
therapists’ help along the way very much. During the same period, I also
learned that every soul has its guardian, who lets in as much as can be dealt
with at the moment, not more. This helped me to respect what looked like
limitations in close persons as a healthy way of protecting their relative
well-being or sanity.<o:p></o:p></span></font></span></p>
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color=navy><span style='color:navy'>Catherine Pfaehler</span></font><font
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<p class=MsoAutoSig><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
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<p class=MsoAutoSig><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma;color:black'>-----Ursprüngliche Nachricht-----<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Von:</span></b> OSLIST
[mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU]<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Im
Auftrag von </span></b>Esther .<br>
</span></font><b><font size=2 color=black face=Tahoma><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-ansi-language:EN-GB;
font-weight:bold'>Gesendet:</span></font></b><font size=2 color=black
face=Tahoma><span lang=EN-GB style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma;
color:black;mso-ansi-language:EN-GB'> Montag, 8. Dezember 2003 09:58<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>An:</span></b> OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Betreff:</span></b> Re: my family (mother
list)</span></font><span lang=EN-GB style='mso-ansi-language:EN-GB'><o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><font size=3 color=navy face=Arial><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy;mso-ansi-language:EN-GB;
font-weight:bold'>In a message dated 12/7/2003 6:58:15 PM Eastern Standard
Time, MareiKiele@web.de writes:<br>
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margin-left:3.75pt;border:none;mso-border-left-alt:solid blue 1.5pt;padding:
0cm;mso-padding-alt:0cm 0cm 0cm 4.0pt'><font size=2 color=black
face="Courier New" FAMILY=FIXED><span lang=EN-GB style='font-size:10.0pt;
font-family:"Courier New";color:black;background:white;mso-ansi-language:EN-GB'>And
one more question to mix you all up the way I am NOW (exactly midnight in
Germany): Maybe it is still judging to think it was too much. Because hidden in
this thought is the idea that everyone could find his or her paradise in open
space. Which implicates not to accept the choice of all who find their paradise
somewhere else. </span></font><font color=black face=Arial FAMILY=SANSSERIF><span
lang=EN-GB style='font-family:Arial;color:black;background:white;mso-ansi-language:
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lang=EN-GB style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New";color:black;
background:white;mso-ansi-language:EN-GB'>Does all this make sense to you?</span></font><font
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Arial;color:black;background:white;mso-ansi-language:EN-GB'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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Marei:<br>
It is one of the hardest things I do to not judge and to keep an open mind
about others who have different reactions and different needs and I don't
always do it perfectly (of course!) but I feel like I want to print out your
response and ponder it a while.<br>
<br>
Esther<br>
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