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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Verdana><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'>Dear Marei,</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Verdana><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'>Thank you for sharing your experiences
in your posting.</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Verdana><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'>You wrote:</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=blue face="Courier New"><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Courier New";color:blue'>Coming back to
what Tova wrote (...multi focused... is felt, at least by some... as an 'energy
leakage'):</span></font><font size=2 color=blue><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;color:blue'><br>
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</span></font><font size=2 color=blue face="Courier New"><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Courier New";color:blue'>This man, being
60+-years old, said he found out that open space isn't for him and that he is
hoping he will never have to participate in one anymore. First I thought he was
not open enough (like "how limited"). Writing and thinking about it I
become less demanding. I realize how judging I have been. Now I understand it
may just have been to much for him... or to fast. And I wonder if there is any
chance to make it easier for people to SLOWLY get in touch? I guess he may have
been overtaxed - coming to the food-metaphor: as I sometimes feel overtaxed
going to the market with all the fresh vegetable and fruits and decisions to
make - there are times when I prefer a small supermarket with only a small assortement.</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana;color:blue'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Verdana><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'>Up till now, in every Open Space
(except for OSonOS) I participated or facilitated, there is someone who doesn’t
like the situation. </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Verdana><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'>I too, felt that it should’nt
be and I asked myself: what has gone wrong? or something like that.</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Verdana><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'>But now it seems to me quite a
normal part of an Open Space. Of course, when someone tells me he’s not
happy with this way of gathering, I am always touched, but what I have learned
is to keep Space open for myself and try to ask the right open questions to
really try to understand what is the matter. Not even try to change the view of
the other, even if they want your opinion or reaction. </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Verdana><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'>I met a lot of reasons people
could bring in against Open Space.</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Verdana><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'>It makes me also contact with the
feeling of happiness that there is a overwhelming majority that fully agree it
was a right thing to do.</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Verdana><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'>I would say: listen very careful, but
prevent to try to pull everyone in. For some it is too much, for some it is to
fast, for others it is too less or it should go faster. </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Verdana><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Verdana><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'>To me it’s the big picture
that counts. Were they somehow in contact with their Spirit? How did it feel? (Even
without being in the same room).</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Verdana><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'>And further:</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Verdana><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'>I still want to thank you for the
photographs you sent me. </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Verdana><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'>It was very nice feeling to see
myself there sitting in the sun in Bramstrup. Thanks Marei !!</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Verdana><span lang=EN-GB
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'>I wish you good luck and success in
facilitating more Open Spaces.</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana'> </span></font></p>
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style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Verdana;color:navy'> </span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:35.4pt'><font size=2 color=black
face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma'>-----Oorspronkelijk
bericht-----<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Van:</span></b> OSLIST
[mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU] <b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Namens
</span></b>Marei Kiele<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Verzonden:</span></b> maandag 8 december 2003
0:55<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Aan:</span></b> OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Onderwerp:</span></b> Re: [OSLIST] my family
(mother list)</span></font></p>
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