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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'>Birgitt, you wrote<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=3 color=navy
face="Arial Black"><span style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial Black";
color:navy'>Our Harmony Project was specifically a calling to those who work
with 'opening space and holding space' to use their special gifts to assist
in holding space for opportunities for Harmony. And the challenge for
those hundreds of us who are now co-facilitating the holding of this space is
to do so by holding steady with emotional detachment no matter what is
happening in the world and to have NO attachment to outcome, just the same as
we teach with working with Open Space Technology. And that is hard, as all
those of you who facilitate OST meetings that you are inclined to feel
emotional about well know.</span></font><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'>Your thoughts about “emotional
detachment no matter what” made me think of my recent experience with youth
during an OST event (where I was clearly not emotionally detached), and also John’s
recent post, where he said<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none'><span
class=SpellE><span class=GramE><font size=2 face="Courier New"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New"'>i</span></font></span></span><font
size=2 face="Courier New"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New"'>
appreciate what you are saying. <span class=SpellE><span class=GramE>i</span></span>
believe your words have great value. <span class=GramE>but</span>, there are
many <span class=SpellE>many</span> things that <span class=SpellE>i</span>
confront regularly that <span class=SpellE>i</span> cannot appreciate, nor do <span
class=SpellE>i</span> feel it appropriate to appreciate: torture and other
violations of human rights.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none'><font
size=2 face="Courier New"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New"'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none'><span
class=GramE><font size=2 face="Courier New"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;
font-family:"Courier New"'>fortunately</span></font></span><font size=2
face="Courier New"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New"'>,
many of us enjoy a life where such terror is nothing more than a distant grief.
<span class=GramE>for</span> all too many people, it is not distant at all.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none'><font
size=2 face="Courier New"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New"'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><span class=GramE><font size=2 face="Courier New"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New"'>let</span></font></span><font
size=2 face="Courier New"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New"'>
us stay grounded in the reality of the whole and not of a certain portion.</span></font><font
color=navy><span style='color:navy'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'>I see the truth and wisdom of detachment,
and have practiced “no attachment to outcome” for many years.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>I also recognize our need to give and
receive care and love, which I think is a form of attachment.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>We are in relationship with each
other.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>We care what happens to each
other.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>That is not detachment.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>So I find myself trying to find some
resolution that honors the truth being expressed in both points of view.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'>I think the “no attachment to outcome”
applies to the choices people make, but not to the people themselves.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>It applies to the behavior, not the
person.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>That means I can begin to practice
acceptance and non-judgment.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>This
is easier when I see behavior not as a reflection of the “goodness”
or “badness” of a person, but simply as a reflection of their current
understanding of the world, and therefore a reflection of their current learning
needs. <span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'>I can see that our behaviors have
consequences, and that we are all constantly learning from every choice we
make.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>That learning is a very good
thing, and is perhaps the very reason for our being here.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>I have no desire to get in the way of our
learning. <span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>I believe we have as many
lifetimes as we need to learn what we came here to learn, so I am willing to
accept even the worst atrocities as an accurate reflection of the learning
needs of those who are involved.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>I
can also see that my current learning need is to learn to transcend fear-based
and non-loving responses.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>When I
look through this lens, I can see that the harmful behavior of others provides
me with opportunities to practice loving response in all situations.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>This is a lesson I have not yet
mastered.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>So perhaps I feel some
appreciation for the lessons that are available to all of us in every kind of
situation.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'>At the same time, I cannot ignore my
heart-felt desire for the good of all.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>
</span>I care.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>I wouldn’t
have it any other way.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>If there is
some giving or receiving that I can <span class=GramE>do that</span> will help
alleviate harm, or help myself and others progress a little more quickly in our
understanding of the world, then I want to make that contribution.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>I am not detached from helping.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>If I can, I want to help.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>Sometimes I help with my silence, and
sometimes with my words.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><span
class=GramE>Sometimes with my invisibility, and sometimes with my visibility.</span><span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>If I can’t help, I want to do no
harm to anyone, including those who are inflicting harm on others.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'>I find myself feeling very attached to our
individual and collective learning and growth.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>I’m not concerned about the
outcome because I think that is a certainty, but I think it matters that I
actively engage in the learning process while I’m here.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>I don’t think we’re supposed
to detach from that.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>I think we’re
supposed to detach from worldly desires, but not from inner growth and
understanding.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'>For me, the important thing is the quality
of acceptance and non-judgment.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>To
see our behavior as indicators of what we need to learn, not as a reflection of
our goodness or badness.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>Always,
always love the person.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>Detach from
judgment of outward behavior.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>Don’t
detach from the learning and inner growth which leads to wisdom and truth.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'>Back to yin and yang, I guess.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><span class=GramE>Attachment and
detachment.</span><span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>Speaking
and silence.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><span class=GramE>Visibility
and invisibility.</span><span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><span class=GramE>Finding wholeness in
the whole.</span><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'>This doesn’t feel complete, but I can’t
quite capture whatever it is that is missing, and the day calls ~<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'>Julie<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=navy face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none'><font
size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:12.0pt'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
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