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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Hi Julie,</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>thank you very much for your wisdom!</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>usually I don't participate in discussions,
sometimes, when I see that somebody is trying to work alone, as I propose in the
opening session, that 'you' can do it alone, when will you have other time to
think it over and be a part of the book of proceedings, so I can approach and
ask, if I can work together with the participant so I can listen to her/him, ask
questions, and share my experienct as well, but usually not, when the group work
nicely except when I can wait and ask some questions if proper (though nobody
knows, if it is proper, may be I interveine even with the
questions)</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>well, I do have passion as everybody does in this
question, so I need to be in a proper state, as Harrison is saying - can't
meditate, but need to try to be in a good mood for facilitating.</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>I wish you as many snow as you wish... we do have
much this year, roads are awful, as rail-roads, so you have difficulties, when
you change your line... though their only two of them here usually, if not one.
That is also a part of city communal service...</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>best wishes</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>and Merry Christmass!</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>elena</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial">----- Original Message ----- </DIV>
<DIV
style="BACKGROUND: #e4e4e4; FONT: 10pt arial; font-color: black"><B>From:</B>
<A title=jsmith@MOSQUITONET.COM href="mailto:jsmith@MOSQUITONET.COM">Julie
Smith</A> </DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>To:</B> <A
title=OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU
href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU">OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</A>
</DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Sent:</B> Thursday, December 26, 2002 11:20
PM</DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Subject:</B> Re: For those, who can afford
themselves to think on Christmass</DIV>
<DIV><BR></DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face="Times New Roman" color=navy size=3><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: navy">Dear Elena,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face="Times New Roman" color=navy size=3><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: navy"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><SPAN class=GramE><FONT face="Times New Roman" color=navy
size=3><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: navy">Greetings from
</SPAN></FONT></SPAN><st1:State><st1:place><SPAN class=GramE><FONT
color=navy><SPAN
style="COLOR: navy">Alaska</SPAN></FONT></SPAN></st1:place></st1:State><SPAN
class=GramE><FONT color=navy><SPAN style="COLOR: navy"> on this
day-after-Christmas.</SPAN></FONT></SPAN><FONT color=navy><SPAN
style="COLOR: navy"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>We might
finally have enough snow for my son to ski and my friends to mush their dogs
across the frozen tundra.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It has
been an unusually warm winter in </SPAN></FONT><st1:City><st1:place><FONT
color=navy><SPAN
style="COLOR: navy">Fairbanks</SPAN></FONT></st1:place></st1:City><FONT
color=navy><SPAN style="COLOR: navy"> with very little
snow.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face="Times New Roman" color=navy size=3><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: navy"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face="Times New Roman" color=navy size=3><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: navy">Your questions remind me of the questions
I was asking when I first encountered OST.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>At that time, I was still spending some
of my time in the role of mediator.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>In that role, it is proper to ask questions.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It isn’t proper to lean or push toward
particular answers, but it IS proper to ask the questions that beg to be
asked.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Through the questions she
asks, the mediator weaves her wisdom and intelligence with the wisdom and
intelligence of the group.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It is
a speaking wisdom rather than a silent wisdom.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face="Times New Roman" color=navy size=3><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: navy"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face="Times New Roman" color=navy size=3><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: navy">Some on this list have indicated that
they sometimes participate in group discussions.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>I have also made that choice.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>For me, making that choice is all
about listening to my inner voice, and following wherever it leads.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face="Times New Roman" color=navy size=3><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: navy"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face="Times New Roman" color=navy size=3><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: navy">Our task is not to abide by some external
set of rules, but to follow the internal laws of our heart.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>OST is wonderful and powerful because
it so closely matches who we innately are, but there cannot be a single rigid
either-or rule about speaking and silence.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Sometimes one is called for, and
sometimes the other.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Only our
internal knowing can tell us what is needed in the moment we’re
in.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face="Times New Roman" color=navy size=3><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: navy"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face="Times New Roman" color=navy size=3><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: navy">Much love,<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face="Times New Roman" color=navy size=3><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: navy"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face="Times New Roman" color=navy size=3><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: navy">Julie<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV></BLOCKQUOTE></BODY></HTML>