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I can't -- for the life of me figure out who wrote what to whom -- but,
having 5 children and an equal number of grandchildren -- it is just
great. thanks<br><br>
ho<br><br>
<br><br>
At 02:02 PM 5/31/2002 -0300, you wrote:<br>
<blockquote type=cite class=cite cite>wonderful to bring those who are
also holding the space to my<br>
consciousness — I knew you were out there <grin><br><br>
>>> shaymarg@indigo.ie 05/28/02 08:02AM >>><br>
What a wonderful expression of the parental role, especially with<br>
regard<br>
to teenagers.<br><br>
Thank you to your vulnerability.<br>
Shay<br><br>
Judi Richardson wrote:<br>
><br>
> Mornin'<br>
><br>
> In our deliberations of actively holding space — and as always<br>
> happens when I am in contemplation — an outward manifestation<br>
occurs.<br>
> I found myself sending this to a few close friends, and grinned as
I<br>
> watch it take place on the screen — speaking to holding space,
to<br>
my<br>
> stretch away from a traditional parental model — which takes
place<br>
in<br>
> organizations as we know. I wondered til this morning if I'd
be able<br>
to<br>
> place my vulnerability on such a public list. And, of course
<grin><br>
> with that thought knew that I must! So, I offer it without
editing<br>
in<br>
> the spirit of dialogue on actively holding space!<br>
> ***********<br>
> I am writing on this sunny Sunday morning to ask you to take a
brief<br>
> moment and hold space with me. A beautiful time has happened
in our<br>
> family life. My young adult sons are going through growth
decisions<br>
and<br>
> learning. In my full knowing I need to serve that -- not fix
it, as<br>
> nothing is broken, not help it, as he is the only so called
"expert"<br>
in<br>
> his life — just quietly serve and hold space. Setting
clear<br>
> boundaries is so important, even knowing in setting some of
those<br>
> boundaries my sons may choose to react with pain, disconnection
and<br>
> confusion. Even knowing and celebrating that those reactions
will<br>
be<br>
> catalysts for great growth. I am not the creator -- not
responsible<br>
for<br>
> his every emotion. And then there is my mother heart -- oh my
she<br>
is<br>
> experiencing great growth. This is the moment we have been
waiting<br>
for<br>
> when my sons spread their own wings and fly. And, to be
honest, I<br>
cry<br>
> out because part of me still wants to wrap him in my arms as when
he<br>
was<br>
> a small child -- the mother wolf protecting her cub, solving
his<br>
> problems, his saviour in times of need! To do that now would
stunt<br>
his<br>
> growth, close space, and clip his wings, no-- our wings --
serving<br>
none<br>
> of us. And I need to be present moment to moment in holding
that<br>
space<br>
> actively..... with great love and a full heart.<br>
><br>
> with love and great gratitude and in peace,<br>
> Judi<br>
><br>
> Judith Richardson<br>
> judith@ponoconsultants.com<br>
> Pono Consultants International<br>
> Facilitating the Flow of Inspired Collaboration<br>
> (902) 435-0308<br>
>
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