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<p class=MsoNormal><span class=EmailStyle15><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;mso-bidi-font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial'>In conflict,
for me, I want each person to be able to tell their whole story, without
interruption, and to be heard with compassion.<span style="mso-spacerun:
yes"> </span>First I ask them to tell me the story alone, <span
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Let it crock pot (Simmer) for a few days
and then share it with the other.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</span>I want nothing in the room but chairs, no place to hide and nothing to
get behind.<o:p></o:p></span></font></span></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><span class=EmailStyle15><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;mso-bidi-font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial'>Yes, OS is
in many ways the essence of conflict resolution (my practice) as in OS a person
takes responsibility and passion and is implicitly given the honor of a full
listening.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>No two people are in a
conflict it is the community as well. The process allows for and invites the
participants to consider how to heal the community.<span style="mso-spacerun:
yes"> </span>I think when I am most successful the process works on a spiral
with Macro and Micro weaving and separating.<span style="mso-spacerun:
yes"> </span>Dynamic processes invite/require open space.<o:p></o:p></span></font></span></p>
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mso-bidi-font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"AvantGarde Md BT";color:#3366FF;
font-weight:bold'>K e n<o:p></o:p></span></font></b></p>
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style='font-size:14.0pt;mso-bidi-font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"AvantGarde Md BT";
color:#3366FF;font-weight:bold'>Peace is Security<o:p></o:p></span></font></b></p>
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face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma;color:black'>-----Original
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<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>From:</span></b> OSLIST
[mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU]<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>On
Behalf Of </span></b>Chris Weaver<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Sent:</span></b> Sunday, December 30, 2001
8:17 AM<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>To:</span></b> OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Subject:</span></b> conflict resolution
(branching off from self organization...)</span></font></p>
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12.0pt;margin-left:.5in'><font size=3 color=black face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:black'>Julie wrote,</span></font><font
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-right:.5in;mso-margin-top-alt:auto;margin-bottom:
12.0pt;margin-left:1.0in'><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'>I wonder whether there
are some important lessons for conflict resolution professionals in the work
you're doing. I think the answer is yes, but I haven't quite figured out
what the lessons are. <br>
<br>
</span></font><font color=black face=Arial><span style='font-family:Arial;
color:black'>Not knowing much about the profession of conflict resolution, I
expect that there is a lot of resonance.<br>
<br>
I imagine that there are many mediators who see themselves as space-holders
rather than fixers.<br>
<br>
I imagine that there are mediators who in some way invite those "in
conflict" to consider a larger circle of viewpoints by holding space for a
diversity of voices - not just the polarized "other" but a circle of
those affected and those who care.<br>
<br>
My friend does victim-offender mediation, sometimes in the aftermath of violent
crime. There is much in common about how he and I prepare for our work,
but to me his space-holding requires more courage - warrior energy, tested
tried & true. And an <u>unwavering</u> trust in & service to the
transforming power of love.<br>
<br>
Interesting though...when I think of "conflict resolution" I picture
two people across a table from one another, with a mediator in between, and I
think, what a set-up. How could there be healing without the circle?
How could healing be sustained without a circle of "the right
people," who have responded to an open invitation? And what would be
the theme?<br>
<br>
Thanks, Julie...I find a great deal to think about here.<br>
<br>
Chris<br>
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