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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'>My husband, the
builder, tells me of the boards and pipes dancing in his head, weaving together
in his mind, to his hands, creating our home.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'>Ideas dance through my
head, weaving together in my mind, to my fingers on the keyboard, creating I
know not what.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>Today’s vision:<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'>The short version: <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'>In our spiral of
expanding consciousness, we outgrow conflict.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'>The long version: <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'>During our journey, we
encounter conflict.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>As in all things, we
have two choices:<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
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<li class=MsoNormal style='color:#333399;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1;tab-stops:
list .5in'><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial'>We can respond with fear.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>(In the Thomas-Kilman model, for you CR
professionals, fear might wear the face of avoidance, accommodation,
competition, or compromise)<o:p></o:p></span></font></li>
<li class=MsoNormal style='color:#333399;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1;tab-stops:
list .5in'><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial'>We can respond with love.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>(In the T-K model, the face of
collaboration)<o:p></o:p></span></font></li>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'>Most of us experiment for
a very long time with one or more of the fear-based responses to conflict.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>None of these responses fully engages the
humanity/divinity of all the people involved in the conflict.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>From this place of fear-based response, it is
an advance, a forward movement of expanding consciousness, to recognize the
positive value of conflict that is expressed when we respond to conflict with collaboration.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>When we advance to a collaborative model, we seek
to fully engage and honor and respect every person involved in the
conflict.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>As we engage in collaborative responses
to conflict (through a variety of processes, including OS and mediation) we experience
fuller and more genuine engagement with others, we are awed and inspired by the
beauty and natural intelligence of humanity, and our ability to love expands.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'>And then….. <span
class=GramE>there</span> comes a point where conflict itself is no longer
meaningful.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>It fades away because, in
Jung’s words, “[s]ome higher or wider interest appeared on the…
horizon, and through this broadening of… outlook the insoluble problem
lost its urgency.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>It was not solved
logically in its own terms but faded when confronted with a new and stronger
life urge.”<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'>From this place on the
spiral, experiencing and practicing what it means to engage with love with
everyone in every moment becomes the “new and stronger life urge.”<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>From this place, engaging in our own conflict
is a step backwards, a reflection of a momentary return to fear, an error to be
healed.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'>…..<span
class=GramE>which leaves the question of whether and how we engage in the
conflicts of others……</span> I think the focus on particular
processes must also fade…..<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'>I think there comes a
point of flow, where we simply accept the unfolding of people and events around
us.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>Our sole responsibility is to quietly
maintain our integrity to our loving intention, to be still often enough and
long enough to hear our inner wisdom, and to choose our actions
accordingly.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'>Julie<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#333399" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#333399'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
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