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<div>I think conflict can result from many things and people locked in
conflict can be coming from many places. Sometimes conflict is
standing firm at a genuine place that feels threatened.
Sometimes it is raging from a stuck place that has become safe and
defended and what is being expressed may not have much to do with
what else is going on in the room at the time. Some people stay
with their feelings and immediate experience when expressing anger
and some people are expressing anger from a re-stimulation mode in
which something in the past becomes the most immediately real thing
to them. All of this can be very confusing, and connecting to
what is happening right now for everyone in the room can take some
doing. Of course the immediate thing that is going on and the
place that we have to start from is that we are in conflict, we are
angry, we are stimulated in some way. There are probably also
other things going on in the room that conflict often masks, like
"We really care very much about each other", or
"Getting past this conflict and making a real connection is
really important to me." I think the trick is opening up
all the voices (conflict often makes a good attempt at keeping many
voices closed.) and again:</div>
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<div>Showing up and being present</div>
<div>Telling the truth without blame or judgement</div>
<div>Follow what has heart and meaning</div>
<div>Letting go of attachment to outcome</div>
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<div>The truth will prevail!</div>
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<div>Kenoli</div>
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<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial" size="-1">Hmmmm......
I see what you mean, Judi and Harrison. There is that aspect of
conflict that puts us in touch with ourselves. The internal
struggle that accompanies external conflict can force us to explore
our deeper truths and meanings in life. That exploration can
result in important learning and growth.</font></blockquote>
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<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial" size="-1">And then
there is that aspect of conflict that blames and judges the
other. It is the healing of this aspect, I think, that I was
trying to get at in my earlier post. This is the healing that
allows us to have a shared truth with another rather than a solo
truth that excludes the other. That shared truth sometimes
opens us to the possibility of recognizing our connection, our
oneness.</font></blockquote>
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<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial" size="-1">I love the
four laws of Spirit that Birgitt shared. </font></blockquote>
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<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial" size="-1">Thank you,
everyone, for such thoughtful conversation.</font></blockquote>
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<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial"
size="-1">Julie</font></blockquote>
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<blockquote>----- Original Message -----</blockquote>
<blockquote><b>From:</b> <a
href="mailto:owenhh@MINDSPRING.COM">Harrison Owen</a></blockquote>
<blockquote><b>To:</b> <a
href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU"
>OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</a></blockquote>
<blockquote><b>Sent:</b> Wednesday, August 29, 2001 7:23
AM</blockquote>
<blockquote><b>Subject:</b> Re: AW: Central Asia</blockquote>
<blockquote><br></blockquote>
<blockquote>At 11:40 AM 8/29/2001 -0300, you wrote:<br>
<blockquote type="cite" cite>Hi all,<br>
<br>
A very rich exchange, indeed. Intriguing to hear a plethora of
experience!<br>
<br>
Julie -- you wrote...<br>
I spend some of my time mediating with people who are in
conflict. It seems<br>
to me that people in conflict are usually not in touch with truth.<br>
<br>
My experience has been that people in conflict -- including myself(!)
are quite often beginning to touch their own truth when in
conflict!<br>
<br>
Judi<br>
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Personally I find that when folks are in conflict they are totally
connected to the Truth -- their own. Not necessarily a bad thing if
space can be provided so that some perspective may be achieved. And
the good news about conflict is that somebody cares. No Conflict?
Nobody cares! but you do need some space to move about in. which is
why, I guess, we do what we do.<br>
<br>
ho<br>
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<blockquote align="center">Harrison Owen<br>
7808 River Falls Drive<br>
Potomac, MD 20854 USA<br>
phone 301-469-9269<br>
fax 301-983-9314<br>
Summer Phone 207-763-3261<br>
Summer Address<br>
189 Beaucaire Ave.<br>
Camden, ME 04843<br>
Personal website www.mindspring.com/~owenhh<br>
Open Space Institute website www.openspaceworld.org<br>
Open Space Training www.openspaceworld.com</blockquote>
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<div>-- <br>
Kenoli Oleari, Horizons of Change, http://www.horizonsofchange.com<br>
1801 Fairview Street, Berkeley, CA 94703 Voice
Phone: 510-601-8217, <br>
Fax: 510-595-8369, Email: kenoli@igc.org (or click on:
mailto://kenoli@igc.org)</div>
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