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<DIV>>Asking people why they chose not<BR>> to come feels like making them
accountable to the "asker" for their<BR>actions - a<BR>> contradiction of the
law of two feet.<BR>><BR><BR>BJ,<BR><BR>I think intention has a great deal to
do with this. When asking is tinged<BR>with accusation or expectation of
an accounting, then it is quite<BR>inappropriate. When it is done from a
place of loving curiosity, I have<BR>found it can open new territory to explore
both for the asker and the asked.<BR>Such questions for me have led to deeper,
richer understanding and closer<BR>relationships.<BR><BR>Peg
Holman<BR></DIV></BODY></HTML>