[OSList] Where is Lisa? Here she is.

lucia pavia Ticzon living.systems.org.luch at gmail.com
Fri Jun 26 19:38:17 PDT 2020

Love that name STREAK.
Love to you, Lisa.
Love this narrative and the silence.

Know I have been in spirit connection all along.

Mabuhay ka 🎉🙏🧡🙏🎉

Lucia aka luchie

On Wed, Jun 17, 2020 at 2:32 PM gerardo de luzenberger via OSList <
oslist at lists.openspacetech.org> wrote:

> Lovely Lisa,
> fabulous access queen, thanks so much for your email.
> A little gift for you - the dancing queen at Belgrade wosonos in 2014
> <https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qAZitrDz_fk>
> Jon brought on behalf of you for the Silent Auctions
> All the best
> ge
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> Il giorno sab 13 giu 2020 alle ore 00:02 Lisa Heft via OSList <
> oslist at lists.openspacetech.org> ha scritto:
>> Hello, OSLIST friends -
>> I have not written anything here since 2016 - although I am still sitting
>> in the circle and listening in.
>> Some of you are dear friends from across the years (note my new email, by
>> the way). A few of you have mentioned that it might be nice if I wrote to
>> the list about how I am doing.
>> This message is long, because a) I have not visited in awhile, b) I am
>> having a conversation with you here in my head over time, and c) in Open
>> Space, even a group of 1 can have a rich conversation for an entire session
>> or longer - and can then share their documentation of that exploration back
>> to the rest of the group in their Book of Proceedings. Of course you have a
>> choice to read it or delete it.
>> Those of you who know me extra-well know that - since you have known me -
>> I have while working as a facilitator and educator also been very involved
>> in the care of elderly parents. What just a few of you know is that I have
>> also been living with a health condition called ME/CFS
>> <https://www.cdc.gov/me-cfs/about/index.html>. That condition has
>> progressed. I am fortunate that I am still able to care for myself,
>> although here is one way to describe this particular invisible-to-others
>> disability: I have to rest in-between putting on my right shoe and my left
>> shoe. But I can still put on my shoes ;o)    (and hey, who needs shoes in
>> COVID quarantine??)  To understand the impact of this health issue (for
>> people who have it much much worse than I do), perhaps your country offers
>> access to a sobering yet beautiful documentary called Unrest
>> <https://www.unrest.film/>.  A few years ago I realized that true,
>> radical wellness meant that I must release even those things I love (love
>> love love facilitation and teaching about facilitation - love it). I did
>> not feel sad releasing my client work - I felt lighter. I still grieve not
>> being able to teach and facilitate, and in so many diverse settings,
>> countries and cultures. But I knew immediately that it was the right thing
>> to do. Last year my amazing father died, this year my amazing mother-in-law
>> died, and after two decades of parental care, now my wife and I have more
>> time and energy to care for our selves.
>> Interestingly, I never thought of myself as disabled until recent years,
>> because I simply lived my life. However, since my parents raised me in
>> a richly-diverse world, I have always had a passion for seeing / imagining
>> / designing with a priority of and focus on access and inclusion. So here I
>> am in an embodied experience exploring things I always imagined might be
>> someone else's experience. Fascinating.
>> I write this next part simply to share my background, with those of you
>> who have not yet met me: I have facilitated for 40-something years. My
>> interest area is dialogic methods that scale up (only one facilitator
>> needed for a group of 5 or 3000+), that work across country and culture
>> (without requiring participants to learn someone else’s vocabulary; without
>> working through the facilitators’s own cultural filter), and in which
>> participants frame their own experience (rather than the facilitator doing
>> so). When I say 'dialogic', I mean those processes which engage
>> participants in internal and external dialogue (conversation with self,
>> conversation with others). And when I say conversation, I do not mean
>> everyone has to speak aloud. Witnessing - fully listening - is
>> participation just as much as speaking. I use existing and custom-designed
>> processes which engage participants in silent reflection, kinesthetic and
>> graphic thinking, improv, role play, poetry creation, movement, and (no
>> surprise!) such methods as Open Space, World Cafe and Focused Conversation
>> Method. Here is another <http://www.openingspace.net/> way of showing
>> who I am (there are so very many different ways of seeing / naming /
>> showing one's self).
>> And now I write this part to share what I feel so proud of - and because
>> writing this shows me back to myself, with you as witness to my "prouds". I
>> have much more life to live, but this is also a point of my life where I am
>> reflecting a bit. I am so proud of having been able to learn so much from
>> and with so many of you. I am amazed (but not surprised) about how Open
>> Space (I will call it OS) works. I have used it in over 20 countries, and
>> within those countries with participants of many mixes of cultures and
>> countries of origin. I have used it when only one person showed up, and
>> with groups of 3500. I have seen groups use it to figure out how to spend a
>> billion dollars of funding over the next several years, in a way that was
>> different than they did before, to bring positive impacts to programs,
>> outcomes and communities. Survivors of foster care or violence or disaster
>> articulating their unique and collective experience, grief and loss, and
>> resilience. Communities impacted by institutionalization, marginalization,
>> corruption, exclusion or resource elimination changing laws, changing
>> narratives, changing other peoples' minds.  People in some countries (mine
>> included) noticing how participating in OS has given them their first
>> experience of true democracy. I have learned from exploring and
>> experimenting with participant-centered documentation design, with ways of
>> helping groups think about, understand or respond to the huge amounts of
>> data generated at an OS (new thinking, new relationships, potential
>> projects or next steps, previously-unseen patterns), from sharing
>> differences in how I or others explain the principles and law, when to call
>> it OS and when it has been changed to become something slightly different,
>> what-to-do-when's (or what not to do), what-ifs, what is helpful and what
>> is too "helpy", and what can negatively impact or support the outcomes and
>> human dynamics possible with full-form OS. I am proud of learning together
>> with so many of you as we "unpack" OS - the doing of it, but also the tasks
>> and actions from pre-work to after the event. Exploring what is true,
>> diversity-welcoming invitation (resource generation, seen and unseen
>> actions, pre-work, registration design, site design, and ways of seeing /
>> listening / naming / honoring / celebrating / embodying). I am proud of how
>> my passion for documenting dialogue - both documentation design and also
>> participants' own hard work - has given thousands of participants back
>> their own amazing words and shown back to them their own system, answers,
>> resources, nutrient-rich unanswered questions, voices and discoveries - and
>> helped them integrate their experiences after (a big rest and) their
>> dialogic events.  I have learned so much about what is action, when to
>> separate an event from post-event decision-making, and when the dialogue
>> itself *is* the action. *Is* the change. And how change does not have to be
>> seen by a facilitator to exist and to have an impact, in ways that many
>> participants have told me about long after their events. Proud of being
>> able to access such rich learning from some big mistakes or errors in
>> understanding. And I am informed by the principles and law and trusting the
>> people and the process being also ways of living life.
>> (No, I might not answer your questions about any of these things above
>> for your own learning / comparing / contrasting to. Because I am way too
>> @$#@#&!%-ing  fatigued. Writing this email has taken me quite a lot of
>> energy and many months to create. But if you have questions or wonderings,
>> agreements, disagreements with or diverse experiences about any of the
>> above, I invite you to give the gift of your exploration to this big circle
>> here by wondering out loud: Post to this list and explore together.)
>> I am proud of having helped raise and share resources, traditions,
>> understanding, and access and inclusion for so many people from so many
>> countries and cultures - people of so many seen and unseen diversities -
>> who have sought to join our in-person tribal gatherings around the world.
>> Proud of being and helping Poets Laureate. Proud of helping and mentoring
>> those who courageously asked for help or ideas or ways of stepping in or
>> speaking up or being seen. Delighted at repeating explorations of (for
>> example) conversations in silence or in graphics or in movement - again and
>> again across the years - to see what we think might hold true - or not -
>> about some or all individuals or cultures around the world. Proud of
>> finally making it to an okay level of ability in Spanish to be able to
>> teach and laugh and explore in such a rich language and collection of
>> cultures. Proud of engaging in conversation with so many of you on this
>> list - those who speak, and also those who witness without speaking - about
>> things with which we may or may not agree, do or not do the same,
>> understand or do not understand in the same ways. Proud of our (and
>> participants in my conferences, client work and workshops) collective
>> exploration to struggle to articulate the complex, the unexplainable, the
>> unnameable, and the unknowable, in our simple human languages.
>> I have conversations with so many of you, dear friends in my head - with
>> each of us sipping a beverage-of-choice and looking out into the garden and
>> talking about life. Or not talking, just sitting in rich nutritious silence
>> together. And I love both those conversations and that shared silence.
>> For anyone worried (as we sometimes do when hearing about another's
>> health issue), do not worry: Although I do not feel pleasant and sometimes
>> feel worse, I am living a sweet life. I am very lucky, I love silence and
>> have a quiet sweet home to live in, a very supportive wife, nobody else's
>> rhythm or expectations to fit myself into, and some little creative
>> projects-without-deadlines. For example I am sewing my first-ever quilt
>> (blanket with patched-together fabrics and softness in-between), which
>> began with fabric from my father's softest shirts. I am watching some
>> incredible animals - including huge Bald Eagles in their nest
>> <https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RyOFMZx0dTc> and a great view. (Bald
>> Eagles are huge - 1 meter / 6 feet long even before they spread their
>> wings, and when any of the eggs make it to hatching, they have cute babies.
>> Nocturnal animals such as flying squirrels and great horned owls visit the
>> nest when the eagles are away, eagle couples sing and love each other up,
>> and chat moderators share their vast knowledge for rich learning. And you
>> can move the timeline back to enjoy the sunrise or sunset in your own time,
>> complete with the sound of the stream below.)  Molly makes me cocktails
>> ;o)  And I simply sit, in silence, doing nothing, for long periods of time.
>> I often think about writing about this work that we do - so many stories
>> and understandings and learnings and still-unexploreds to share. But I do
>> not hold that tightly as it is not something my energy can include at this
>> time. Who knows / be prepared to be surprised / whatever happens and all
>> that.
>> I read emails but may never reply - it is often more than I can do. You
>> who love me know that I feel your love all the time. You also know that I
>> feel loved even by people I have not yet met - people I will never know.
>> That is how I am built. I feel lucky to have love and self-love, intuition,
>> peace and imagination as my navigational system. I am a big spirit in a
>> weak body, however / and I am doing very well. And because I am so amazing
>> simply living my life with such a big challenge - and because I have been
>> given the gifts of appreciation and being fully in the now - I have given
>> myself a superhero name: STREAK (for those of you who do not have English
>> as your home language, the meaning for this word I refer to is like a fast
>> flash of movement). STRength in the face of wEAKness. (I wonder, dear
>> reader, what would be the superhero name you would give *your* self?)
>> A big abrazo / abraço / (air)hug to you, my friends. I am not going
>> anywhere, and yet I am everywhere, and I feel seen and sometimes unseen,
>> and I feel engaged and sometimes disengaged. I am prepared to be surprised
>> and not attached to outcome, and whatever happens is the only thing that
>> could have. Take very good care of yourselves, and each other. I now move
>> back to my seat (or to standing behind my seat and swaying, as many of you
>> have seen me do), as a witness in this big circle,
>> Lisa
>> As I will be transitioning email addresses, thank you for sending emails
>> now to lisaheft at gmail.com and removing openingspace.net from your
>> contacts.
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