[OSList] [SPAM] A.MX - Re: Tension Rising
Annamarie Pluhar
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Wed Mar 13 16:15:12 PDT 2013
That's really funny.
Annamarie Pluhar
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On Mar 13, 2013, at 3:04 PM, Harrison Owen <hhowen at verizon.net> wrote:
> Chris – You make me smile! And also recall a reply I once made to a client with seriously dysfunctional organization, who worried that nobody would come… I responded that if nobody came, he didn’t have a morale problem, he had a mutiny. Didn’t hear any more from him.
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> From: oslist-bounces at lists.openspacetech.org [mailto:oslist-bounces at lists.openspacetech.org] On Behalf Of Chris Corrigan
> Sent: Wednesday, March 13, 2013 2:39 PM
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> Subject: Re: [OSList] Tension Rising
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> One thing I have grown less tolerant about over the years is the demand that I answer truthfully hypothetical questions. "Yes but, what if no one comes forward? Yes but, what if no one has anything to say? …if there is no outcome? …if people want to do something different?"
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> By definition, hypothetical questions are endless, and any attempt to answer them is a lie. You cannot guess at the future. And who knows, THIS open space might be the first one in history to fail. Anything is possible.
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> So I am very good at saying "I don't know" and "we'll do this together", and if the question is really motivated by a fear, to helping the person reframe what they are worried about. If we can together design or act in a way that alleviates that fear, excellent. If not, then I coach the person to be okay with the unknown, and to act in a resourceful way if they confront that situation.
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> I think as humans we can all get better at being willing to jump with two feet right into mystery. Life is amazing and there is simply no way to guess how it will all turn out, barring the obvious and inevitable result!
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> Chris
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> On 2013-03-13, at 8:43 AM, David Glenwinkel <david at villagecare.com> wrote:
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> I totally agree. The more you engage the more resistance you will get, it is like a Chinese handcuff! It has been hard so often to just be quiet and wait for the result, which is that it always works. Remember and trust:
> “Whoever shows up are the right people” ; it may not seem so at first, but that includes the negative folks.
> “Whatever you have with you is everything you need”.
> These may be misquoted, and I apologize in advance. Those two principles have kept me at peace so often, not just in OS, in all aspects of life.
> David Glenwinkel
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> From: oslist-bounces at lists.openspacetech.org [mailto:oslist-bounces at lists.openspacetech.org] On Behalf OfHarrison Owen
> Sent: Wednesday, March 13, 2013 8:05 AM
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> Subject: [OSList] Tension Rising
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> Adrianna – I just love it when folks get seriously anxious. It really spices up the occasion, and then when everything is just rolling along (as usual) – I completely enjoy their look of delighted surprise. But you are right some folks do work themselves up into a lather. That’s OK, but when they start “organizing” everything, that can get difficult. What to do? One thing I have learned is that no matter what you tell them they will not be convinced. Indeed, it almost seems that the more you say, the worse they get. My solution has been to say as little as possible. When questioned, I just say, “It always works.” If they press the point and ask about those times in (OS) didn’t work – I’m completely honest… I’ve never seen that. Under the heading of saying less – it may be a very positive thing that you are NOT going to be at the next meeting. J
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> Harrison
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> Harrison Owen
> 7808 River Falls Dr.
> Potomac, MD 20854
> USA
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> 189 Beaucaire Ave. (summer)
> Camden, Maine 04843
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> (summer) 207-763-3261
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> From: oslist-bounces at lists.openspacetech.org [mailto:oslist-bounces at lists.openspacetech.org] On Behalf OfLourdes Adriana Diaz-Berrio Doring
> Sent: Wednesday, March 13, 2013 8:13 AM
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> Subject: Re: [OSList] Skills inventory
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> Hello : I have a question for you. I am organizing a big OS (big for me we expect around 100 participants) I have been working with a team that has been working hard on the organization invitation, logistics, diffusion, etc, etc and I feel and think that now we have to stop working so hard but one person is getting very anxious.
> She feels 100% responsible for this preparation and for the rest I would like to find a way to make her feel more confident.
> I am the facilitator.
> I have a group of 5 volonteers that know OS and are very happy to help us.
> This event will be in 35 days but I feel this tension growing and I am not available to be present at their next organisation meeting event if I have been there with them every time. I all ready talked about the why ; we are doing this to have meaningful conversations, have fun, enjoy, learn, etc....but it didn't help, the stress is growing, the need to control is there strongly!!!
> Some one could give me a piece of advise please?
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> Adriana
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> 2013/3/12 Ashley Cooper <easilyashley at gmail.com>
> Thank you all so much for these suggestions. Super helpful.
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> One link that was shared with me in another message board was this map of skills. I find it intriguing.
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> http://cmapspublic.ihmc.us/rid=1238727620187_1999034880_30242/Tutor%20Mentor%20Connection%20Network%20Analysis%20-%20Skills.cmap
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> Best to all!
> Ashley
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> On Thu, Mar 7, 2013 at 11:50 AM, Michael Herman <michael at michaelherman.com> wrote:
> hey hey ashley,
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> in the emery and trist model for participative work redesign, one of the modules was skills identification. it went a bit like harrison describes, with room to be more rigorous, if you like.
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> the context for PD working sessions was that some defined "piece of work" was to be redesigned, structure, process, skills and the individual experience of it. so there was a known piece of work that provided the "skills needed" side of harrison's equation.
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> within that context, participants were asked to create on the wall a list of all of the skills needed. you could tweak this to be all the skills anyone thought were needed or that they had to offer to the work. then, across the wall, everyone's name was added to make a top row of column headings. in the grid, everyone filled in a 0-1-2 rating for their skill level, 0 was none, 1 was skilled, 2 was skilled enough to teach.
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> the first part of the work in the skills module of the process was to do this inventory work. then, after the redesigning, the group was invited to return to the grid and see if they had enough of various skills to make the new structures/processes work, to populate the new system, so to speak. any gaps were either formal training needs or indicators to participants where they could acquire new skills and make new/needed contributions -- could see who might be their teachers/mentors in that learning.
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> On Wed, Mar 6, 2013 at 1:45 PM, Jaime Pedreros <jpedrerosf at gmail.com> wrote:
> Hello Ashley and colleagues,
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> After reading the excellent contributions that were made, I am afraid
> whether appreciative inquiry could help, mainly at the discover stage.
> Find out more at: appreciativeinquiry.case.edu.
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> Warm regards from again rainy La Paz
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> Jaime
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