speaking from the center

[Lisa Heft]

Hello, dear Eleder - once again you ask great questions.

Everyone has shared so wonderfully.
The only things I would add are:

In my Open Space Learning Workshop one of the things folks do is  
practice walking and talking in that circle.
And yes - others have mentioned as you have their concern with having  
their backs to someone as they speak.

What they have found is similar to what was mentioned here - if you  
look a few people ahead and keep moving (slowly, breathing, present)  
you are indeed never having your back to anyone for very long. If you  
turn your head as you move you are including people behind you as you  
travel, as well. If your voice is loud enough or you have a microphone  
everyone can hear you even if you are not facing everyone.

Of course this is all different if some people in your circle have any  
hearing differences such as deafness or other hearing loss - so it is  
always good to ask on registration forms who has any access /  
ability / mobility issues they would like to bring to event  
coordinators' attention. Then you have this extra info if you need it  
for some individuals, and can give them extra eye contact or some  
notes as well.

It is true that having too small a circle and towering over people is  
hard for them - so do make a nice big circle with room in between each  
chair. And if it is too small on the inside I see no problem with  
walking the outside of the circle (though when I have done this some  
of my OS colleagues have *gasped* !.  But it is so I do not close  
everyone in too tightly, in those instances.

I have also learned from my workshop participants that if you have any  
nervousness about looking people in the eye, try instead....looking at  
the tops of their heads (!).
It often feels like you are looking at them - try it.

But I think you will become more and more comfortable as you practice,  
sort how you like to say things, and experience yourself doing it more  
and more.

Sometimes if it is a tense event to come - I may set up the circle and  
then walk, it, before any participants arrive. And I envision the  
participants and their listening faces, and I smile and welcome them  
before they get there.

Mostly - Suzanne said it so well: it is of course not about you. It is  
about them. So if you focus on them and on making your voice and the  
instructions something they can hear and that invites them, then once  
you begin you are in partnership with them - and they can feel it...

And the other 'mostly' is: remember you are in your walking, your  
breathing, your explaining - creating a container that is open and  
welcoming and has tools and a process - so that they can do their best  
work.
You are with your walk, your voice, your instructions, your  
breathing... weaving that open and inviting container. And in your  
walking you are invoking (calling in) energy.

And you know how to do that, dear Eleder - just.... breathe....  
and ... go.... and be amazed, as I know you are....

Lisa

Lisa Heft
Consultant, Facilitator, Educator
Opening Space
lisaheft at openingspace.net



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