re honouring each other

[Erik Fabian]

Is this space closed to moments of contraction?

Erik


On Fri, 20 Nov 2009 11:12:32 -0600, Denise Tennen <denisetennen at comcast.net> wrote:

>Thank you so much for your comments, Wendy
>
>Denise
>On Nov 20, 2009, at 4:51 AM, Wendy Farmer-O'Neil wrote:
>
>> In my experience, truth is relative.  It depends essentially on my
>> perspective.  The vaster my perspective, the more many-faceted
>> truth appears.  Until the very notion of truth becomes more of a
>> living process than a static fact.
>>
>> I have experienced contraction in the resonant field of OSList
>> throughout this conversation.  To me that signals the presence of
>> aggression.  Aggression can be very subtle or very blatant.  Either
>> way, it stimulates hurt, often in those other than its target.
>>
>> I am a student of Aikido, so violence, non-violence, aggression,
>> its evocation, its arising, and its transformation are my daily
>> bread.  I still have a lifetime�s worth to learn about it.  I
>> believe that the purpose of conflict is harmony.  What I have
>> learned so far, is that aggression is a destructive, life denying
>> vector in that equation.  And that clean heart anger is a
>> generative life affirming vector.
>>
>> I have yet to hear clean heart anger in this conversation.  I have
>> heard a lot of aggression in a variety of forms and guises.  I have
>> also heard hurt, pain, sadness, confusion, frustration, to name a few.
>>
>> I will share what my experience has been in service to transparency
>> if it serves no better purpose.
>>
>> I feel contraction when I hear OS and NVC spoken of as tools
>> because for me, they have become profound ways of being in the world.
>>
>> I feel contraction when I hear pain in Chris Corrigan�s voice when
>> he wonders why this conversation needs to unfold this way between
>> people he cares about.
>>
>> I feel contraction when I hear blame, shame and name-calling.
>>
>> I feel contraction when I recognize the operation of a poisoned
>> well argument.
>>
>> I feel contraction when I hear someone caught in the steel jaws of
>> an old hurt.
>>
>> I feel contraction when i hear the pain of someone who has had to
>> fight too damn hard for every inch and breath.
>>
>> I feel contraction when I see more unsubscribes in a day than I
>> usually see in a month.
>>
>> I feel care, concern, pain, and sadness when I think of all of you
>> in this circle who are listening or speaking.  It is you who I most
>> want to speak to right now.
>>
>> Here is my hand.
>>
>> I offer it in absolute commitment.  I will never put you out of my
>> heart. I will hold space with and for you through it all.  Even in
>> our most shadowed , unloved and disowned places.  I�m game to face
>> the monsters of the deep.  I prefer them to the shallows.
>>
>> I will name that the use of violence and aggression cloaked as the
>> servant of truth has been the strategy of many who would prefer to
>> silence, persecute, oppress and discredit those whose opinions or
>> choices were in conflict with their own agendas.  It has been the
>> root of much human suffering.  I can feel suffering present on this
>> list right now.  I don�t like it.  I won�t support it.  I am
>> saddened that people I admire and respect are behaving this way.  I
>> am requesting that it stop. I am also requesting that the back-
>> channel story-telling stop.  If you do not have the integrity to
>> air your complaints directly, at least have the decency not to
>> perpetrate slander. (And I am speaking about everyone involved not
>> one person in particular, because I�m certain it�s going on in
>> several directions.)
>>
>> I guess we have finally grown up.  We are apparently big enough,
>> brave enough, and ready enough to face a real dragon.  Can�t wait
>> to see what we do with the treasure.
>>
>> In deepest respect and with great love for you all,
>>
>> Wendy
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>> On 20-Nov-09, at 1:12 AM, Michael Herman wrote:
>>
>> Wendy Farmer-O'Neil
>> CEO Prospera Consulting
>> wendy at xe.net
>> 1-800-713-2351
>>
>> The moment of change is the only poem. -- Adrienne Rich
>>
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