re honouring each other

Fri Nov 20 08:29:45 PST 2009

Your comment reminds me of something that Andrew Olendzki (Editor of Insight
Journal) wrote: 

"When desire is replaced by equanimity, and awareness of all phenomena thus
unfolds without reference to self, we gain the freedom to move along with
change rather than setting ourselves against it."

Karen

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-----Original Message-----
From: OSLIST [mailto:OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU] On Behalf Of Chris
Corrigan
Sent: Friday, November 20, 2009 7:52 AM
To: OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU
Subject: Re: [OSLIST] re honouring each other

Wendy. Thank you for laying your heart in the field. For engaging in
the art of irime, the aikido art of entering. How we enter is
important - we all know that moment we step over the boundary and into
the center if the circle to open space. It i
s a place that demands great consciousness if that entering itself is
to be in service of life and not in service of oneself.

Thank you for reminding me of that.

Chris

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CHRIS CORRIGAN
http://www.chriscorrigan.com

Sent from an iPod, typed with thumbs...

On 2009-11-20, at 2:51, "Wendy Farmer-O'Neil" <wendy at xe.net> wrote:

> In my experience, truth is relative.  It depends essentially on my
> perspective.  The vaster my perspective, the more many-faceted truth
> appears.  Until the very notion of truth becomes more of a living
> process than a static fact.
>
> I have experienced contraction in the resonant field of OSList
> throughout this conversation.  To me that signals the presence of
> aggression.  Aggression can be very subtle or very blatant.  Either
> way, it stimulates hurt, often in those other than its target.
>
> I am a student of Aikido, so violence, non-violence, aggression, its
> evocation, its arising, and its transformation are my daily bread.
> I still have a lifetime's worth to learn about it.  I believe that t
> he purpose of conflict is harmony.  What I have learned so far, is t
> hat aggression is a destructive, life denying vector in that equatio
> n.  And that clean heart anger is a generative life affirming vector.
>
> I have yet to hear clean heart anger in this conversation.  I have
> heard a lot of aggression in a variety of forms and guises.  I have
> also heard hurt, pain, sadness, confusion, frustration, to name a few.
>
> I will share what my experience has been in service to transparency
> if it serves no better purpose.
>
> I feel contraction when I hear OS and NVC spoken of as tools because
> for me, they have become profound ways of being in the world.
>
> I feel contraction when I hear pain in Chris Corrigan's voice when h
> e wonders why this conversation needs to unfold this way between peo
> ple he cares about.
>
> I feel contraction when I hear blame, shame and name-calling.
>
> I feel contraction when I recognize the operation of a poisoned well
> argument.
>
> I feel contraction when I hear someone caught in the steel jaws of
> an old hurt.
>
> I feel contraction when i hear the pain of someone who has had to
> fight too damn hard for every inch and breath.
>
> I feel contraction when I see more unsubscribes in a day than I
> usually see in a month.
>
> I feel care, concern, pain, and sadness when I think of all of you
> in this circle who are listening or speaking.  It is you who I most
> want to speak to right now.
>
> Here is my hand.
>
> I offer it in absolute commitment.  I will never put you out of my
> heart. I will hold space with and for you through it all.  Even in
> our most shadowed , unloved and disowned places.  I'm game to face t
> he monsters of the deep.  I prefer them to the shallows.
>
> I will name that the use of violence and aggression cloaked as the
> servant of truth has been the strategy of many who would prefer to
> silence, persecute, oppress and discredit those whose opinions or
> choices were in conflict with their own agendas.  It has been the
> root of much human suffering.  I can feel suffering present on this
> list right now.  I don't like it.  I won't support it.  I am
> saddened that people I admire and respect are behaving this way.  I
> am requesting that it stop. I am also requesting that the back-chann
> el story-telling stop.  If you do not have the integrity to air your
>  complaints directly, at least have the decency not to perpetrate sl
> ander. (And I am speaking about everyone involved not one person in
> particular, because I'm certain it's going on in several
> directions.)
>
> I guess we have finally grown up.  We are apparently big enough,
> brave enough, and ready enough to face a real dragon.  Can't wait to
>  see what we do with the treasure.
>
> In deepest respect and with great love for you all,
>
> Wendy
>
>
>
>
>
> On 20-Nov-09, at 1:12 AM, Michael Herman wrote:
>
> Wendy Farmer-O'Neil
> CEO Prospera Consulting
> wendy at xe.net
> 1-800-713-2351
>
> The moment of change is the only poem. -- Adrienne Rich
>
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