re honouring each other

[douglas germann]

Wendy--

I offer my hand with yours.

Let us work for expanding openness, together.

			:- Doug.



On Fri, 2009-11-20 at 02:51 -0800, Wendy Farmer-O'Neil wrote:
> In my experience, truth is relative.  It depends essentially on my  
> perspective.  The vaster my perspective, the more many-faceted truth  
> appears.  Until the very notion of truth becomes more of a living  
> process than a static fact.
> 
> I have experienced contraction in the resonant field of OSList  
> throughout this conversation.  To me that signals the presence of  
> aggression.  Aggression can be very subtle or very blatant.  Either  
> way, it stimulates hurt, often in those other than its target.
> 
> I am a student of Aikido, so violence, non-violence, aggression, its  
> evocation, its arising, and its transformation are my daily bread.  I  
> still have a lifetime’s worth to learn about it.  I believe that the  
> purpose of conflict is harmony.  What I have learned so far, is that  
> aggression is a destructive, life denying vector in that equation.   
> And that clean heart anger is a generative life affirming vector.
> 
> I have yet to hear clean heart anger in this conversation.  I have  
> heard a lot of aggression in a variety of forms and guises.  I have  
> also heard hurt, pain, sadness, confusion, frustration, to name a few.
> 
> I will share what my experience has been in service to transparency if  
> it serves no better purpose.
> 
> I feel contraction when I hear OS and NVC spoken of as tools because  
> for me, they have become profound ways of being in the world.
> 
> I feel contraction when I hear pain in Chris Corrigan’s voice when he  
> wonders why this conversation needs to unfold this way between people  
> he cares about.
> 
> I feel contraction when I hear blame, shame and name-calling.
> 
> I feel contraction when I recognize the operation of a poisoned well  
> argument.
> 
> I feel contraction when I hear someone caught in the steel jaws of an  
> old hurt.
> 
> I feel contraction when i hear the pain of someone who has had to  
> fight too damn hard for every inch and breath.
> 
> I feel contraction when I see more unsubscribes in a day than I  
> usually see in a month.
> 
> I feel care, concern, pain, and sadness when I think of all of you in  
> this circle who are listening or speaking.  It is you who I most want  
> to speak to right now.
> 
> Here is my hand.
> 
> I offer it in absolute commitment.  I will never put you out of my  
> heart. I will hold space with and for you through it all.  Even in our  
> most shadowed , unloved and disowned places.  I’m game to face the  
> monsters of the deep.  I prefer them to the shallows.
> 
> I will name that the use of violence and aggression cloaked as the  
> servant of truth has been the strategy of many who would prefer to  
> silence, persecute, oppress and discredit those whose opinions or  
> choices were in conflict with their own agendas.  It has been the root  
> of much human suffering.  I can feel suffering present on this list  
> right now.  I don’t like it.  I won’t support it.  I am saddened that  
> people I admire and respect are behaving this way.  I am requesting  
> that it stop. I am also requesting that the back-channel story-telling  
> stop.  If you do not have the integrity to air your complaints  
> directly, at least have the decency not to perpetrate slander. (And I  
> am speaking about everyone involved not one person in particular,  
> because I’m certain it’s going on in several directions.)
> 
> I guess we have finally grown up.  We are apparently big enough, brave  
> enough, and ready enough to face a real dragon.  Can’t wait to see  
> what we do with the treasure.
> 
> In deepest respect and with great love for you all,
> 
> Wendy
> 
> 
> 
> 
> 
> On 20-Nov-09, at 1:12 AM, Michael Herman wrote:
> 
> Wendy Farmer-O'Neil
> CEO Prospera Consulting
> wendy at xe.net
> 1-800-713-2351
> 
> The moment of change is the only poem. -- Adrienne Rich
> 
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