Finn's bear is safe

[Phelim McDermott]

Hi Chris,

This email brings on tears for me.

This makes me think of Matilda's slow bear walk at the end of her  
circle which Wilhem taught her..  a bear,s rhythm has a different  
attitude to time... and who knows when a bear might come home.. and it  
also makes me think of Shakespeare's Cymbeline:

Jupiter:

Upon your withering banks of flowers.
Be not with mortal accidents opprest;
No care of yours it is, you know 'tis ours
Whom best i love i cross, To make my gift,
The more delayed, delighted.

However...  lord knows what i'd do if my Monkey went up and didn't  
come down!

Phelim



On 4 Aug 2008, at 18:31, Chris Corrigan wrote:

> Hi Christy,
>
> I was thinking of that too - and merging with the "whatever happens  
> is the only thing that could have happened" conversation that is  
> floating about.  Holding that principle inside actually helped me to  
> be fully present with Finn in his emotions when it happened - that  
> combination of a fully open heart and a mind open to the not knowing  
> how it would or even should turn out but trusting of what is  
> happening, noticing how the result was a very strong connection  
> (being present for Finn, not feeling the need to squash or distract  
> his emotional response as it moved through various stages of shock  
> and grief to calm and possibility) and full availability for wise  
> action (getting the help we needed to get the bear down if  
> possible).  I was also able to appreciate the beauty of what the  
> moment was also bringing: of Finn's feelings, what he was learning  
> about gravity, surprise, being able to be sad and how many people  
> care about him among other gifts.
>
> It also strikes me as an example of trusting and allowing longer  
> stretches of time for events to unfold and not judging their  
> rightness or wrongness on what is happening in the moment - thus  
> less of an impulse arises to control the outcome.  Finn's bear was  
> with us in our thoughts in a different way on our camping trip, Finn  
> is now thinking of the people who used some enormous ladder to  
> retrieve his bear, his new friend Jeff driving to the Presidio to  
> fetch is beloved bear, carefully wrapping and sending it home to  
> us.  When the bear arrives - we are all changed by the experience in  
> our own way - and it takes weeks to unfold.  Sometimes things take  
> years, decades, centuries and we can't possibly track all the ways  
> "whatever happened" in that particular moment plays into the bigger  
> design of it all.  Even things as small or momentarily disastrous as  
> a lost teddy bear.
>
> Anyway - lots of philosophy for a travelling bear.....  but we were  
> ripe for it after some great days in Open Space.
>
> See you soon,
>
> Caitln.
>
> On Mon, Aug 4, 2008 at 2:38 PM, Christy Lee-Engel <cdleee at gmail.com>  
> wrote:
> Dear Caitlin,
>
> How good to know that Finn's bear is on its way home!
>
> It makes me think about the place of the Bear in the Open Space  
> menagerie. Maybe something about patience and endurance in love?  
> Going away for a while and coming home at last? Something about the  
> sometimes quick, sometimes slow, cyclical rhythm of exuberance, and  
> sadness, and celebration?
>
> Thank you for sharing the happy resolution!
>
> love, Christy
>
> -- 
> Christy Lee-Engel, ND, LAc
> Seattle, WA
> 206.399.0868
> http://lifecultivatinglife.blogspot.com
>
>
>
> On Sun, Aug 3, 2008 at 11:59 PM, Caitlin Frost <caitlin.frost at gmail.com 
> > wrote:
> In the very last minutes of OsOnOs in San Francisco - our son Finn  
> tossed his teddy bear into the air in a joyful moment and  
> astonishingly it did not come down again as it had landed in the  
> lighting bowl way up in the ceiling.  There were many tears and the  
> summoning of the longest ladders and kind helpers but nothing could  
> reach his beloved bear, and we headed out on our camping trip sans  
> bear with a sad boy.
> This week the big ladders were called in and the staff at the  
> Presidio rescued Finn's bear, and Jeff Aitken is kindly mailing him  
> home for Finn.  Thanks Jeff!
> Just wanted to give the happy ending to those of you who were there  
> and helping and consoling.
> All is well and Finn sends out his thanks for all your help.
>
> Thanks again for a great time in San Francisco.  It was wonderful to  
> finally meet so many of you.
>
> Cheers,
>
> Caitlin.
>
> -- 
> "It all turns out to be a gift."
> Byron Katie.
>
> CAITLIN M FROST
> Facilitation, Coaching, Project Management,
> Principal - Harvest Moon Consultants Ltd.
>
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