inner aggression and the OST facilitator

Michael Herman mjherman at gmail.com
Tue Apr 19 09:45:52 PDT 2005


two things come to mind, raffi...
first, a teaching i received once that pointed out that anger is theflavor of energy that wants things go be different and doesn't knowhow to make is so.  when i can remember, i find it helps to have agood deep search for what it is exactly that i really want to bedifferent.  as i find things and then toss them aside becasue they'reobviously not going to change or not what i want, the energy seems todissipate.  when (if) i come up with the *one* thing that i really dowant, then i can ask my partner, my client, or the group for what iwant... by then in can sometimes offer it as a request rather thandemand, an invitation even, especially when the thing i really want isto benefit many others.  i find this process of finding in myself whati really want is absolutely parallel to the invitation-wrting processin groups.  in this way we can open space in ourselves and inviteothers into it.
second thought is that this language might be used in an opening, butonly because it's the language of the group being invited.... thoughlike elwin, i've never used and can't imagine a group feeling suchthings as we normally express with this language being in any positionto ask for or show up for or work in open space.
thanks for this sharing and inquiry.  m


On 4/19/05, Raffi Aftandelian <raffi at bk.ru> wrote:> Hi all!> For now I just want to express a deep thanks to all the replies both off and onlist to my question. And I wanted to respond briefly.> > I appreciate very much the loving challenges I have gotten and some important wake up calls. (thank you Elwin for your very clear and loud reply).> > When I am reminded that OST meetings is about the group and not about me, I feel very humbled and sad. I am not sure how exactly to really "be" for the group. I  think this is a fundamental question.> > Yes, Therese, you are right about the "Be open, not attached to outcome"-- that is part of just being for the group.> > What are ongoing practices to sort my needs from the group's? What keeps you present as a facilitator during OST? A good nap does, as does a walk.> > Sometimes I worry I am too open here on this list (and in life?). The energy of 1-2 of the responses led me to think that perhaps my questions are beginning to dance a little bit too close to the edge of what people on the listserv feel comfortable talking about.> > For me, OST facilitation taken seriously strikes to the core of the question of "Who am I?" and "How do I choose to be in this whirled?" I cannot not ask these questions. I know that by having clarity on these issues I can be a much more effective OST facilitator.> > I am already using some of the suggested practices! Thank you.> > Warmly,> Raffi> > Найди друга в своем городе! Поиск друзей по странам и городам в новой версии М-Агента http://r.mail.ru/cln2660/agent.mail.ru> > *> *> ==========================================================> OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU> ------------------------------> To subscribe, unsubscribe, change your options,> view the archives of oslist at listserv.boisestate.edu:> http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html> > To learn about OpenSpaceEmailLists and OSLIST FAQs:> http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist>


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