SV: holding space

[Eva P Svensson]

First of all - thank you all for your support and comfort. It does really
help and strengthen.
 What we did - it wasn't so much more then when I got back to the cottage
where the group was, I used my bells in that soft way that only these bells
can sound. And the participants all came back to the circle and just by
looking at me they knew. So I told them what had happened, that she had
died, and we sat there for a while and then we stopped doing what we were
doing and went down to the main building and watch the ongoing news on the
TV. It seemed important to me that they had the same chance as me to "take
it in" in their own ways. We watch the news for about half and hour then
each one had a little time on their own if they wanted or to stay in the
group if they wanted that. Some of theme cried - and we hold each other, for
some of the participants it evoked own, old memories of personal crises, own
personal losses or political traumas (one woman was from Chile), and we
talked about that...
 After lunch we assembled again in the cottage and we talked very briefly
about the grief cycle and the crises curve, and after that they went on
doing what they were doing before.
Everyone was very tired, and calm and that was just OK.  And for myself I
could be in what I was in (if you could put it in that way English - what I
mean is that when I was sad I cried, my tears dropped and that was OK for me
as well).
As a closing - I used the clapping circel that you Gabriela showed us in
Bramstrup, I think by doing that it's both comforting, joy, and a great
appreciating and strength for the whole group.
All again - THANK YOU for being out there!
Love
Eva

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Eva P Svensson
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Skickat: den 12 september 2003 04:46
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Ämne: holding space

Eva--

It seems that love can flow either way through time, so the love that you
asked for flowed to you from our now to your then.

Please tell us what you and the group did.

                              :-Doug. Germann

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