Laurel can really use our help right now

[Elena A. Marchuk]

Dear Dearest Lisa,

Please send my best words and thoughts and prayers to dearest Laurel, I will
think of her all the time. It was such a pleasure to mit her in Vancouver,
she is so bright and warm and heartful person. Everything should be OK!

thank you, Lisa,  for inviting us (me) to be in the circle of collecting all
energy
for Laurel,

Also, my best congratulations with her wedding and birthday - all together!

Laurel, good luck, dear. Best wishes to you!

love

elena

----- Original Message -----
From: "Lisa Heft" <lisaheft at PACBELL.NET>
To: <OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU>
Sent: Sunday, September 23, 2001 3:23 AM
Subject: Laurel can really use our help right now


> Hello, my loving community.
>
> Just yesterday our colleague and sister, Laurel Doersam, found out that
she
> had a melon-sized tumor on her left ovary and a lot of fluid in her
pelvis,
> and also a pocket of fluid in her right lung.
>
> Many of you know Laurel for her thoughtful and loving words on the OSlist,
> and some of you met her in Vancouver last month, as she and Chris Corrigan
> (hi, Chris, I know she's checked in with you, dear) co-hosted our OSonOS
> there.
>
> She will be having surgery on Monday if all goes well with scheduling.  It
> could be a benign fibroid tumor, or it could be something more.
>
> She is really scared, as you can imagine.  And when she lays down she is
> short of breath, because of the fluid in her lungs.  So that is freaking
her
> out, of course.
>
> The good thing is that she works in and with a hospital, and that her
> medical bills are covered.  Not only that, but she'll get the best rooms
and
> such because she is on staff, which means more comfort and privacy and
> larger rooms for her and all those who are there to support her.  The
> doctors she is working with and heads of various parts of the hospital are
> her schoolmates from her time at Royal Roads University, so they are all
> working to make things happen immediately and they are all looking after
her
> and her family.
>
> During surgery the doctors will remove the tumor, plus her ovaries, plus
> part of her bowel (for further investigation of whether it is affecting
the
> bowel).  When they are in there they will see what is happening and what
> more they may have to do, and they will be able to know more about whether
> this is just a fibroid tumor or something more extensive.
>
> She is 'would have - could have - should have'-ing with herself a bit,
> regarding whether she should have sensed or things she could have been
more
> proactive about.  But mostly she is giving herself a lot of love and just
> 'being' with what is happening now, and forgiving herself for whatever she
> could or could not have known.  She is very much relying on her faith in
> 'whatever happens happens' and letting go, and she gets much strength from
> that.  She feels this is for a reason and she'll learn from this and she
is
> keeping open and receptive, messy and thoughtful, crying and breathing,
> taking each moment as it comes, loving herself and knowing that she is
> loved.
>
> Her whole family is gathering at the house, and it turns out her / her
> family's closest friends are also their lawyer and their financial
advisor.
> So last night they all held a learning circle to find out what they know
and
> what they need to know.  Their thought is to plan for the worst and
believe
> that the best will happen.  During the circle they burned some of the
> tobacco that Chris Corrigan gave to Laurel in the closing circle at
OSonOS,
> to send their prayers up.  They also passed the medicine bag full of the
> remaining tobacco around for each to hold as they spoke in the circle.
>
> Because they have been wanting to, because they want to provide more
> security for the three kids, because all of their family are gathered from
> far and wide, and because now is a good time to celebrate life, Rick and
> Laurel have decided to get married, in Open Space, tomorrow, Sunday.  The
> ceremony will be held in the Japanese gardens of Royal Roads University
> tomorrow.  Daughters Chelsea and Jessica are planning the event.  Lots of
> love and tears and laughter, and all of our thoughts, will be with them.
>
> Tonight, as so many are gathered as well at the house, Laurel and several
of
> their friends will celebrate their birthdays.  Usually Laurel and her
> friends with nearby birthdays (Laurel's is on the 29th) have a mass
birthday
> party.  I think because they are really frightened about what surgery will
> find and because they are all having a hard weekend of waiting, they have
> chosen to have that party this evening.
>
> I asked her what she needed from us, and we both affirmed that she knows
she
> is surrounded by our love.  I asked if it was okay to send out the word to
> you all, and she said she could really use your thoughts and energy and
> support.
>
> So I am sending up the prayer flag.
>
> They will not be able to access email, so please fax any messages you may
> have to their good friends Janet and Paul (250 744-1697).
>
> There is every possibility that this will be a benign fibroid, and that
the
> fluid in her lungs is a corresponding response to that certain kind of
> fibroid.  That gives them hope.  So in the least she will have a
> hysterectomy and they'll drain that pocket of fluid and she'll need a lot
of
> healing time.  At the most, we'll find out as they find out, during this
> next week.  I'll be keeping in touch with them and I'll let you know what
I
> hear as it all unfolds.
>
> Thank you, as always, for your amazingness, and Ms. Laurel thanks you from
> the bottom of her heart.
>
>
> Lisa
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