Laurel can really use our help right now

Toni Petrinovich sacred at anacortes.net
Sat Sep 22 13:52:55 PDT 2001


I hold her and all those with her (including all of us) in the Open Heart of
the Divine Mother - all ways.

Toni Petrinovich

----- Original Message -----
From: "Lisa Heft" <lisaheft at pacbell.net>
To: <OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU>
Sent: Saturday, September 22, 2001 1:23 PM
Subject: Laurel can really use our help right now


> Hello, my loving community.
>
> Just yesterday our colleague and sister, Laurel Doersam, found out that
she
> had a melon-sized tumor on her left ovary and a lot of fluid in her
pelvis,
> and also a pocket of fluid in her right lung.
>
> Many of you know Laurel for her thoughtful and loving words on the OSlist,
> and some of you met her in Vancouver last month, as she and Chris Corrigan
> (hi, Chris, I know she's checked in with you, dear) co-hosted our OSonOS
> there.
>
> She will be having surgery on Monday if all goes well with scheduling.  It
> could be a benign fibroid tumor, or it could be something more.
>
> She is really scared, as you can imagine.  And when she lays down she is
> short of breath, because of the fluid in her lungs.  So that is freaking
her
> out, of course.
>
> The good thing is that she works in and with a hospital, and that her
> medical bills are covered.  Not only that, but she'll get the best rooms
and
> such because she is on staff, which means more comfort and privacy and
> larger rooms for her and all those who are there to support her.  The
> doctors she is working with and heads of various parts of the hospital are
> her schoolmates from her time at Royal Roads University, so they are all
> working to make things happen immediately and they are all looking after
her
> and her family.
>
> During surgery the doctors will remove the tumor, plus her ovaries, plus
> part of her bowel (for further investigation of whether it is affecting
the
> bowel).  When they are in there they will see what is happening and what
> more they may have to do, and they will be able to know more about whether
> this is just a fibroid tumor or something more extensive.
>
> She is 'would have - could have - should have'-ing with herself a bit,
> regarding whether she should have sensed or things she could have been
more
> proactive about.  But mostly she is giving herself a lot of love and just
> 'being' with what is happening now, and forgiving herself for whatever she
> could or could not have known.  She is very much relying on her faith in
> 'whatever happens happens' and letting go, and she gets much strength from
> that.  She feels this is for a reason and she'll learn from this and she
is
> keeping open and receptive, messy and thoughtful, crying and breathing,
> taking each moment as it comes, loving herself and knowing that she is
> loved.
>
> Her whole family is gathering at the house, and it turns out her / her
> family's closest friends are also their lawyer and their financial
advisor.
> So last night they all held a learning circle to find out what they know
and
> what they need to know.  Their thought is to plan for the worst and
believe
> that the best will happen.  During the circle they burned some of the
> tobacco that Chris Corrigan gave to Laurel in the closing circle at
OSonOS,
> to send their prayers up.  They also passed the medicine bag full of the
> remaining tobacco around for each to hold as they spoke in the circle.
>
> Because they have been wanting to, because they want to provide more
> security for the three kids, because all of their family are gathered from
> far and wide, and because now is a good time to celebrate life, Rick and
> Laurel have decided to get married, in Open Space, tomorrow, Sunday.  The
> ceremony will be held in the Japanese gardens of Royal Roads University
> tomorrow.  Daughters Chelsea and Jessica are planning the event.  Lots of
> love and tears and laughter, and all of our thoughts, will be with them.
>
> Tonight, as so many are gathered as well at the house, Laurel and several
of
> their friends will celebrate their birthdays.  Usually Laurel and her
> friends with nearby birthdays (Laurel's is on the 29th) have a mass
birthday
> party.  I think because they are really frightened about what surgery will
> find and because they are all having a hard weekend of waiting, they have
> chosen to have that party this evening.
>
> I asked her what she needed from us, and we both affirmed that she knows
she
> is surrounded by our love.  I asked if it was okay to send out the word to
> you all, and she said she could really use your thoughts and energy and
> support.
>
> So I am sending up the prayer flag.
>
> They will not be able to access email, so please fax any messages you may
> have to their good friends Janet and Paul (250 744-1697).
>
> There is every possibility that this will be a benign fibroid, and that
the
> fluid in her lungs is a corresponding response to that certain kind of
> fibroid.  That gives them hope.  So in the least she will have a
> hysterectomy and they'll drain that pocket of fluid and she'll need a lot
of
> healing time.  At the most, we'll find out as they find out, during this
> next week.  I'll be keeping in touch with them and I'll let you know what
I
> hear as it all unfolds.
>
> Thank you, as always, for your amazingness, and Ms. Laurel thanks you from
> the bottom of her heart.
>
>
> Lisa
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